You know Holywoman is an alcoholic, right? She's been sober for eight years, next month.
What's an "alcoholic"?
How much do you have to drink every day to be an "alcoholic"?
Alcoholics Anonymous defines it like this:
You feel you are drinking more than you want to; you have tried to cut down, but have been unable to.
You can be an alcoholic on a single glass of wine a day. If you absolutely cannot get through the day without it, have tried to stop, but haven't been able to.
Are you drinking more booze than you feel is good for you Slacks?
Have you tried to reduce your alcoholic intake?
Have you been able to?
The 'hmmmm am I an alcoholic?' question is something I've pondered in the past. For me it's more on the 'no I'm not' but it's not straightforward.
In short I am generally an 'all or nothing' type person when it comes to drinking at home. At my worst I'm on a bottle of red a night +beer or a couple of whiskies. I'd be taking Nexium daily for severe heartburn and popping ibuprofen before bed as a pre-emptive strike against the 4am headache. Serious stuff.
This will continue for 2 to 3 months. I will ponder stopping but dont.
...until I do.
When I decide to stop I stop. The first night I'll miss it, but after that it's easy. Since NY Eve I've had a glass of champagne on the 6th for my Mum's birthday and a beer with my meal whilst out with my wife for dinner last Saturday. Nothing at home.
This will also continue for 2 to 3 months. Nothing at home, a drink or two with a dinner out, and perhaps one 'session' on a night out.
What typically then happens is that drinking will sneak its way back into the home routine. I'll buy a bottle 'because it's Friday'. Same logic will then apply to Saturday. Then Sunday to relax before work starts, and before I know it I'm back to the bad place drinking every night.
So, a problem drinker for sure, but not quite an alcoholic.
The key for me is not having booze I really like at home. The fact that my wife had gin and tonic in the cupboard doesn't tempt me in the slightest because although I like it it's not one of my faves. But if there was a bottle of red or a decent whiskey I'd be far more tempted.
Hoping to break the cycle of stupidity this year.